The concept that I wanted to further discuss that pertained
to Chapter 4 was that of S-TLC. Stop, think, listen, communicate is definitely the
best way of solving a conflict. For me personally, the most important of the
four steps is listening; during conflicts it is very easy to disregard how the other
person feels. It is going to be impossible to resolve the conflict if you do
not take their feelings into consideration. Listening to others can be also be
very helpful during a conflict because what they have to say might make sense
to you and you will be able to get to the bottom of the problem even quicker.
Stopping and hearing the other person out in a conflict is something that has
really helped me throughout my life during times of struggles and something
that I will definitely use in the future. In conflict all we care about is how
we feel and we usually do not take the other person into consideration, but if
we did the odds of reconciliation are much higher.
Hello, D. Slanton20!
ReplyDeleteI agree that listening is very important for solving a conflict, and can make it end much quicker. It is possible that the entire conflict may be based on a complete misunderstanding, and therefor listening to the other person share their side of the argument may help immensely. Or, like you mentioned, the other party's explanation or argument may make more sense to you, and you might end up agreeing with him/her and admitting to your misjudgment. I also agree that it is important to understand how the other person feels in a conflict, because we cannot read each other's minds.
Hi D.Slaton20, I wanted to respond to your post because I thought you did a good job. You made a good point about how listening is one of the most important steps of the S-TLC. I agree that it is very easy to disregard what the other is saying. It is easy to get wrapped up in your thoughts and your feelings to where there isn’t much room left to take into consideration how the other person might feel. You are right in the fact that it would be difficult to resolve a conflict when you don’t really listen to what the other would need in order to feel comfortable resolving the issue.
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