WEEK 11 POST 2

There have been many situations in my life in which false attributions have exacerbated a conflict situation. I think that every day we have false attributions about people or situations. There may be a situation in which someone is look at you wrong and you think that they are looking for a conflict, but in fact that do not have any problem with you at all. That is probably the most common one that I could think of. Also, I feel like making an accurate attribution can help us because if you look at someone and feel like they are no real threat and are definitely not looking for a problem then there is no way that you would go out of you way to start a conflict with them. Correct and false attributions can be the difference between someone creating a conflict and avoiding one and I think it is very important to be able to distinguish between the two so that we avoid the conflict completely.  

WEEK 11 POST 3

After reading this weeks chapters and responding to the questions on the blog I feel like the thing that I would like to further discuss is that of forgiveness, and revenge. I think it is important that we forgive and forget some things that happen to us. This really doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you, but at the same have a heart and give people another chance. Revenge is something that I usually do not concern myself with but definitely is something that many people think is the best way to react towards a conflict. The problem is that it is only a reaction not a solution. Revenge is not going to get you anywhere except with more problems. The way towards reconciliation is through forgiveness.  Overall, I enjoyed both of the blog posts this week, but thought that it was important for me to talk more about distinguishing the difference because forgiving a person and seeking revenge on a person.

WEEK 11 POST 1

When I did an Internet search for the terms forgiveness, reconciliation, and revenge there were many different ideas or thoughts on each. The one thing that I did notice was that the three words were all linked in one-way or another. I couldn’t find any site that had one of the topics without discussing one of the others. The sites that I found were basically all the same; explaining different ways in which reconciliation can be found as well as different ways to find forgiveness. The term that produced the most and best results was forgiveness. Forgiveness seemed to be the most commonly found and had really good results. I think the reason for this was because it is the best solution to a conflict. In order to restore anything and reconcile you first have to forgive. It is the first step in restoring a friendship. I did not find much on revenge because I don’t think it is a well supported tactic in solving a problem or conflict.